How would I execute
code when the user clicks the controlbox (little x in the upper-right
corner). for an example, if i wanted to display a form that prompts im
the user really wants to exit when the x is pressed; or if i wanted to
end the program instead of just closing the form when its pressed

ControlBox
Etienne VSTS MVP
Putting the following in the form closing event should give you what you need.
Private Sub MainForm_FormClosing(ByVal sender As Object, ByVal e As System.Windows.Forms.FormClosingEventArgs) Handles Me.FormClosing
If MsgBox("Are you sure you want to close ", MsgBoxStyle.YesNo) = MsgBoxResult.No Then
e.Cancel = True
End If
End Sub
of course you can do anything you want such as displaying a modal dialog form but ultimately if you want to abort the form close then the line e.Cancel = True will cancel the form close